friendship is the key to successful parenting

A mother is the child's first teacher..but should always attempt to become its best friend rather than an instructor.The fact is a child is the mother's best friend and the very first teacher..right from the time it's in her womb.
The child invokes positive thoughts in her by its innocent acts of forgiveness,forgetfulness,love minus any selfish or negative thoughts.
Buddiness definitely helps to nurture that love and special bonding that exists only between a mother and child.The very nature of friendship in the relation makes it more open, a trust or faith inculcated making the parwebt child relation more stronger.

My kid is my life's best gift with whom I have shared the most wonderful moments of my life...She learnt walking after crawling on her stomach,then with her arms,then standing,tripping,falling...Teaching me that you learn only after attempting,so never fear failures...
She came to my lap even after I spanked her..teaching me to forgive and forget.
She slept peacefully after all the spanking again to teach me..that forgive all the sinners,don't carry any hatred in your head..that will give you a peaceful sleep.
She said sorry,thanks,excuse me at times when I forgot to say the same..teaching me thar we need to follow the discipline all the time..
She asks me to sort things if I have scattered things when in bad mood..telling me things are to be followed and tasks to be done irrespective of our moods.
Most of the things after teaching her directly/indirectly which i had forgotten she reminds me again and again..

A child parent relationship should be of friends as it will help them connect with each other and accept one another more easily.The parent will have the kids trust and the openness will allow the kid to unveil themselves completely with their parents... Love will flow naturally... And life will be smoother...

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DIET-Deriving-Intelligent-Eating-Technique for a healthy You

Everyone in the current world, because of the busy and mechanical lifestyle are on the onset of slimming down and getting into a good shape. but people should realize and slowly are on the realization curve that it is equally important to maintain one's health during the process of slimming and trimming their figures.

Diet is one of the techniques to lose those extra pounds, but only if done in a methodical manner added with some physical work out. Then definitely good results can be expected. But it should never be done on own in a haphazard manner without knowing the health issues in oneself, with no prior consultation with a nutritionist.

An ill planned crash diet might help a person knock off a few pounds but, will definitely make him/her physically/mentally weak and frail. The health will be affected internally with the vital organs of the body defied of the essential nutrients. The results though not immediate might start  showing up slowly with hormone variations, varying blood-sugar levels, blood pressures etc. No successful results achieved in a short time are a good sign. Weight loss should be a gradual process, to attain positive results.

A well planned diet should be derived in consultation with a health expert. The nutritionist will sketch out a clear diet plan based on your body structure and needs, with a balance of all the nutrients required by the body everyday. The food diet must include proper vitamins, proteins, minerals, calcium, iron, fat and fiber.

The first and simplest rule should be to stop eating all the junk food available everywhere nowadays which are with zero nutrition. The food consumed everyday by us must include the age old herbs and spices which are highly beneficial.
e.g. Honey considered the liquid gold has excellent medicinal properties with its antibacterial and antifungal nature. The uses of having it are unlimited be it for weight reduction, for digestion, coughs colds, skin treatments, hair care, anti-cancer properties and what not.
Similarly there are many age old spices as listed below which are highly rich with health benefits. Cinnamon (lowers blood sugars and cholesterol levels);Turmeric (anti-oxidant and antiseptic); Ginger (anti-inflammatory, cold, cough and digestion) and many more.
Of course a proper diet like this should always be accompanied by a balanced physical and mental workouts. Many people might workout physically but neglect the intellectual part. but very few realize that both go hand in hand. It is very important to keep the mind calm, cool and composed in every instance of today's life. The determination to workout physically also gets invoked by it.

The physical workouts can be anything from Yoga, aerobics to what we can inculcate in our daily routine be it walking a couple of miles, climbing the stairs, jogging, running, cleaning, sweeping the house, mopping etc., while the mental work out should be a 15 minute meditation channelizing the energies within, be it any peaceful corner of the house you can find.

So the definition of a perfect health is a proper balance of a diet, physical and mental workouts. The body should be treated as a temple and kept clean, peaceful and energized instead of spoiling it with junk food, a sedentary lifestyle and negative thoughts. That's  the best answer for a healthy life.

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Stay connected...surfing everything on the go,anytime anywhere..

Cricket is undoubtedly the biggest craze of India, where people eat, breath, drink ,live the game. The game is definitely something which engrosses people of all the ages ,truly hypnotizing them during the affair. People forget their surroundings, activities, jobs, everything sometimes even themselves just to watch their favorite cricket gods play and cheer at the top of their voice to make their country win at any cost.

The shouts can be heard in every house cheering them for every 4's,6's and those shallow breaths during those last final overs,the celebration on the streets after a win is definitely a sight to watch. The national flag swaying with pride, the loud fireworks, the shouts of 'India... India' at top of their
voice the insane crowd make even the other disinterested lot to turn their heads and salute the nation.
On the contrary the roads wear a deserted look if the teams lose the match. People bet on the sport on their favorite teams and go to even the extent of harming themselves in the process, if they and their teams are defeated.. Such is the insanity and mad passion for the game in India and maybe even in other countries.

Though the ardent fans of the game do whatever it takes to watch the game be it cancelling their important meetings/appointments, delaying their important events...the rest of the people who have no other go but have to go on with their duties and tasks which cannot be cancelled or delayed at any cost, fortunately can stay connected to the game with the technology available today.

The internet has revolutionized the world and nothing is out of reach even with your hands in your pocket. Anywhere, everywhere even in the remotest corner the net enables people to keep their interest alive and feel contented on not missing out the big game or anything they aspire to watch. But like everything in life, with every comfort comes a discomfort. That is, with the outdated browsers and low data rate it becomes more of a nightmare rather than a blessing to watch anything live, be it a game of cricket or other favorite shows.

The slow speeds keeps you gaping at the screens waiting to know what happened...and makes you just throw the gadget in irritation, if the screen just freezes there. That's where the modern browsers come into picture, and the new UC browser comes as a savior to keep you from breaking your cool as well as the phone, in those situations as those situations never occur with this browser.

The new UC browser allows you to watch your favorite game so smoothly that you never have to miss even a ball and you end up enjoying the match much better than being in the stadium itself anywhere, anytime at your ease. Be it being away in a remote corner of the world, trekking on the hills, dancing in the club, waiting in the airport, travelling in the train, enjoying in the marriage.. anywhere everywhere...surf it all...surf it fast is the motto of future.

For checking more information in the UC browser click on the below links and enjoy the game whenever, wherever at your comfort.
Visit: http://www.ucweb.com/ and also check out the link UC Cricket

 

whats the rush!!!Let the children BE children...

Everyone nowadays are aspiring or shall I say insanely aspiring the god sent little ones to be- completely independent, socially interactive, highly disciplined, super knowledgeable, supremely multi talented, multi linguistic and what not right from just a few months of their birth.
Be it parents, teachers or whomever.. everyone is in the race of pushing them to become scholars the very next day after their coming into earth.

Life's anyways a race after one juncture...so why start pushing those tiny tots to the game so early..

Come on people, let them grow peacefully at their own pace, enjoying their childhood like we did in our days.. playing hide and seek.. hearing mythological stories from their grannies...sleeping peacefully in their mother' arms.. climbing on their fathers shoulders, walking in the parks....running in the garden.. playing in the mud.. smelling the rains.. dancing in the rain...
What's the rush..!!!.let the saplings grow in a peaceful environment at their pace..

Remember, they are just children, and not some crops to use tools /techniques to ripen them before they are ready for it..

It is ok, to wish for the child's wellbeing and success. but don't stress them too much that they will breakdown. Let them live their childhood with that innocence, naughtiness, laughter.....
They will anyway grow up before you realize and you won't get what you aspire in a child at that time completely drowned in their own fancy world of friends, dreams adolescence etc etc.. they will never be that child, again.. never ever...
So before its too late...take your child in your arms, hug them, love them boundlessly... like theirs no tomorrow... , let them be themselves for that period....
Because their might be no more tomorrows....with them as kids...
Though we never grow up as parents.. they will never come back as kids.....!!!

Just slow down....push the breaks...the accelerator can rest because on the downward slopes on the journey of life, you don't need acceleration.. gravity will take care.. oh course when there are upward slopes...they will learn to accelerate slowly on their own..
So as life throws its challenges they will learn to live..it need not be taught.. actually cannot be taught.... Life is the best teacher....so do your best to make them understand and make them capable of solving their problems rather than providing solutions every time.That will be the best gift you can ever give them...!!!
Instead of always holding a glowing lamp in their path...teach them to light one themselves, as that will go a long way in seeing their future bright even when we are not there....

Tanu weds manu returns, but fails to impress...

Caught up with the Bollywood flick, "tanu weds manu returns" over the weekend. but was badly surprised that it was unnecessarily hyped as one of the great movie etc etc..
Disclaimer : I really have a different take on the movie, a totally different one...Again friends, these are only my views after watching the movie of approximately 120 minutes....,so your views might differ based on your taste and analysis.

The movie starts with the climax of its prequel "Tanu weds manu" as the first sequence and then takes a time leap of 4 years..
The story starts showing the bitterness in the married life of tanu and Manu.. both fighting out in the rehabilitation center to prove their point of who is wrong for their relationship to sour.but with the husband losing cool ends up in the mental asylum for a few days.

The tale moves from UK to India as our hero and heroine come to India one after the other to prove something to themselves or to one another.. actually didn't get for what??
The heroine moves on with her life singing loudly and dancing wildly on the streets saying 'MOVE ON', with her life now being portrayed more as a drunkard with her holding a bottle in every other scene, openly and freely flirting with every tom, dick and harry who were part of her past life...
She forgetting her present and openly moving on with her old crushes and her old lover actually shows her in a different light.On the other hand, the hero after coming to India, moves around the city with his comical pal , aimlessly with a blank expression on his face. Sends a notice to his wife out of his frustration and anger.. and one day finally falls for another damsel resembling no one else. but his own wife..(...whom he resents and is fed up of, after his 4 years of marital hell)
He loves this haryanvi version of his wife whom he spots accidently, who is a state level athlete, with a pixie cut and buck teeth..(and this girl would also unfortunately have her alliance fixed to the same lover of his wife ,with whom her marriage broke from the first movie...:-))))Coincidences...loads!!!!

Finally when he decides to marry her for god knows for whatever reasons known to him after such a short interaction, his wife drops in suddenly to persuade him to come back to her..She stays back with her family to witness the wedding doing more drunken emotional acts...dances.....

Being such a bold woman to the extent of divorcing her husband...now grows so weak that she gets drunk and pleads him not to marry again.The marriage stops at the 6th phera , as the Haryanvi bride realizes that no one will be happy with this commitment including her groom..(unfortunately they can't realize all this earlier..it has to be the last moment.She asks the groom whether he is ok taking the last phera which will confirm/seal their marriage, for which he sheepishly tells ,he is finding it very difficult and will not able to do it ...(the moron would have gone ahead and married her hadn't the girl asked him one last time).She walks boldly out of the mandap, asking his wife to pay the expenses of the forsaken marriage. but ultimately runs inside to cry behind doors..
The couple are together again to fight for their life.....

Summary,
The bold and crazy wife who acts really BOLD drunk almost all the time, trying to rebuild her previous breakups, old crushes by moving on with them realizes her love (or whatever might be the verb) for her husband, only once her foolish husband decides to marry again..!!
The real fool of a husband falls for a duplicate of his wife...immediately after a fight with her...and boldly confronts her village people to marry her, even convinces her that he will be a man and marry her despite any circumstances ends up going back on his words at the last phera ONLY after his bride asks him...
The couple reunite.....illustrating the true moral Indian values..
Whew...!!! That's the story..

Well there are a few sleazy punch lines, unnecessary songs and meaningless comedy thrown in between this mad story of the couple.. which fails to draw the laughs..
Some scenes, unnecessary sad songs, slow transitions between scenes left me yawning and wanted to just stretch my legs and sleep.. But with the 101 babies wailing at the top of their voice which could be heard when the screen went silent every other scene, with some other small kids jumping around on the steps in between the rows , with their parents just shhh shhhing them...,I was actually wide awake....;-)

Though the movie might have made 150 crores or more.(just like many other illogical movies in the club...)...it failed drastically for me as an entertainer. Unlike 'Queen' which was a lovely movie where in everything was balanced.. and left the audience asking for more of Kangana. but this movie though with her double effect fails to create a similar effect.

Kangana ranauth definitely proves her acting mettle in both her roles, especially the one with the haryanvi accent...and looks refreshingly bold and beautiful in the other.
Madhavan.R aka maddy hasn't much to offer looks pale, old, wide with no charm....and poorly projected.. Should actually choose roles suitably. He has that blank expression almost in every scene.. maybe he also got confused as to what to emote with all the confusion put in his role.
Jimmy Shergill who definitely excels as a performer with a great potential is wasted as usual...by his poor selection of movies.. He just is another accessory for the movie who seems desperate to get married to whomever or whatever.

In this era of movies, where the supporting actors do have real meaningful roles to emote this movie fails in that category also. Remember the characters of Vijayalakshmi, the Italian Chef, the 3 alien friends of Rani and even the little brother of Rani in the movie 'Queen' who all gave so much life to the movie.. despite their few scenes on the screen. Unlike here.. where no supporting actors add any value of any sort ,but only irritation. Their roles poorly etched by the director...adds just one more reason to regret the movie.

Nowadays, sequels are just pouring in for every other movie in bollywood and other woods too.. without any original or hatke plots....I know movies needn't have lot of logic all the time. but this one somehow failed to entertain also. They just try to cash on directing sequels after sequels with some mediocre plots, if the first movie becomes a hit....haven't we seen Dhoom 1,2,3....Singham 1,2...Murder 1,2....what not... No originality..no freshness nothing out of the box....same old stories with lots of unnecessary comedy and songs...'Tanu weds manu returns' just didn't work for me..:-/
Just a time paaaaaaas....for movie buffs..
Felt the prequel was much better in terms of story and as a movie.
2 out of 5 stars...with 2 only for the spontaneous Kangana doing a double role.
but dear lady we do expect better roles and much better movies from a National award winner....!!!so please watch out...

Child is the first teacher for a mother:-)

Human behavior and emotions I tell you, it is so unpredictable not only of others but of ourselves sometimes...We wouldn't expect ourselves to behave that way but ultimately the hormones take over or whatever happens to the wiring inside, our output is completely chaotic and uncalled for most of the times, which we realize/regret later.

Everyone has weakness and I too am trying to overcome mine slowly, gradually. Anger is one sure shot toxin, which corrupts your entire brain wiring and ultimately burns your complete system down along with the relation with the one to whom it is targeted. Me being very short tempered have tried/still trying to control my anger especially after being a mother.....

A child definitely brings out so many unknown hidden facets in a mother like her humorous side - making funny faces, pranks, stories to amuse the child and keep it entertained;
her teaching ability - right from instilling good behavior to reading/writing;
her singing and dancing potential - lullaby for their sleep, rhymes and dancing with them like crazy when alone, for their favorite music;
her multi tasking ability - cook, clean, read, sing, feed ,get angry, love all emotions and tasks in 1 platter;
her wild and naughty/notorious side - fooling the child to do/not do certain things .....acting like a child herself sometimes.
The list is endless...,like this every other aspect concealed within her will be unveiled in no time.
At the same time a child can also test, play around and burst ones bubble of self control and repair it in no time.

For example, on a funnier note I never imagined a wild animal inside me until sometime, after shouting and screaming my lungs out and pouncing on her actually like one.She wept, then suddenly came, embraced me tightly even though I was the one spanking her.
I realized my erratic behavior...guilt made my eyes wet her face, me apologizing to her by the billionth peck on her warm cheeks... but by then she already had dozed off in my arms. Realized only a child can make you feel like a loser in life.

Wish it would have been easier to forgive and forget for us matured and enlightened grown ups.
And I know tomorrow when I grow old...and become childlike(as every other old parent is), and she hurts me someway as a grown up, I will naturally forgive her like every other mother...and will embrace her.

Seriously I bet that no other relationship in this entire world can be as beautiful as the one shared by a mother and a child.We usually want to preserve our false ego, give a lot of importance to self esteem and don't want to forgive. It is not that we all should become saints. It is just that we should not get stuck to any situation or circumstance, carrying the huge load of ego, anger, grudge ,rivalry, tit for tat attitude, jealousy, all other feelings of negativity for others who give you the same treatment. This will only increase the burden on the already screwed up mind of a human being.

So instead try to simplify the situations thrown in, think, reason and simplify the reactions at the moment and whatever happens, just move on with the journey ...unloading all the unnecessary baggage from time to time to have a lighter mind for a better self.Be at peace with your inner self and the world will be a better place to live.And of course I can share all this with you when my mentor is asleep...

As anyway she is doing her job even though asleep, invoking the philosopher and writer in me..
As usual, my little one is going on teaching me, grooming me to be able to handle life easily in her own way. And am taking tiny steps as a toddler in learning these facts of life...
Hoping to grow up fast along with her....!!!!
Thank you darling and sorry again for mamma's behavior..!!
Love ..and only love to you.....

Mother...the first learning guide for a child..

Mother is definitely the first teacher, role model..as a child grows up seeing and interacting only with her in a larger slice of its childhood.
Me like most of the others have learnt a lot from my creator.. that being my mother.

She though wasn't fortunate to be educated in those old days by her parents, she didn't lack the confidence in dealing with the life which followed after her marriage be it working 24/7 at home for her in laws family or venturing successfully into a city life after the village life. She was socially very strong and was of friendly nature, had loads of friends. With my father's small salary, her ability in handling our complete family with 4 kids was really appreciable. We never ever felt the lack of anything even in our small house, because of the love and affection showered by her.
Luckily for her,we as kids were also understanding and never demanding.
We somehow were leading a happy contented life.. even in those circumstances, which I feel we lack in the current state of life even after having everything in abundance when compared to those days.

My memories of  my mother in my early childhood is that of a simple woman very beautiful both inside and outside, who was independently handling all the outside transactions, struggling hard everyday, and bought us up with pride without taking any debts from anyone..in any form for any occasion. She used to save those 10Rs of auto by walking 2 kms to get the kerosene for stove. She used to carry huge bags of groceries on her own.. and never ever complained. She never even complained about lack of money or anything and always kept us happy.

As a child I picked up a lot of things, habits automatically from my mother.. but as I grew up I started picking up the qualities which I admired specifically in her.
I learnt the art of multi tasking from my mother, her patience in greeting, serving everyone with a smile is something which I admire the most.
She will cook for us anything at any time of the day and never say am tired or bored to cook today, even if she is tired or not well. That nature is something I personally respect as it comes with oodles of patience...and I intend to definitely learn that from her, at least trying.

Her confidence in dealing/communicating even with unknown people with a vibrant energy is something I have adapted in my lifestyle.

Her interest in learning things is amazing even at this age, which is admirable. I hope I maintain the same zeal of knowledge at her age....

Apart from all the good learning from our mothers.. there is another reverse face of the subject I want to discuss on..i.e. again learning process for us , but from the "Not so good" traits in them.
I feel everyone including our mothers will have both good and bad in them.. and it's not that they are perfect in everyway.
Anyway as per me, what ultimately matters is what we learn from them and how we adapt those learning's to suit our situations .. be it either doing/dealing with things in the right way like they do or by not doing/handling/behaving like them under certain circumstances.
Either ways we can better ourselves. We can pick up good traits, we can also pick up their bad traits but using them after negating them to suit our personality and life.

For illustrating this, I am specifying here on certain things my mother does which cannot be termed say bad or negative ,but which are not preferred by me in my way of life.
One major trait of my mother is she judges people very easily which I feel is not right. We should always give the other person a benefit of doubt, some time, space to explain themselves.. or try to get their perspective before coming to a harsh judgment.

Other thing is she is overly sensitive, is very emotional and cries almost instantaneously over paltry things or others behavior / remarks / comments. This one trait I feel has rubbed off on my genes, but one which I completely dislike about myself.
I really feel like a loser when tears roll down my eyes on every other occasion, for trivial issues/reasons making me lower my self esteem in my own eyes rather than the onlooker's eyes.
I realize this and detest the mood around every time I see my mother reacting that way, creating unnecessary commotion, negative vibrations when it's not called for. Here, My conscience tells me it's not correct, this is not what I would/should do if encountered with such a situation.
As a learning from this trait, am constantly working on building myself emotionally more stronger, so that am more bolder in facing, handling situations without making my eyes wet and losing my confidence.

Yes, my mother as my first teacher has illustrated/ taught me numerous aspects of life, it's harsh realities, and ways to cope up with the various situations/challenges it throws in, in her own way.
Promptly putting it, I have picked up and adapted/trying to adapt these lessons based on their suitability and necessity in my life as a dedicated and smart student.
It's not that am projecting my mother as a negative personality. but just trying to stress that no human is perfect to be worshiped or followed completely. We are in the constant process of learning from different experiences of life. And its less costly for us when we learn from others, their mistakes, their experience.
As I said, we can do a lot of learning from every person both good and bad ..essential and non-essential. It's just that we should have an eye to identify them, categorize them, nurture the good/essential traits to take them to the next level and negating the bad/non-essential ones to positive ones and embed them into our lives.

Me, being a mother myself , I now know what examples I should set for my child to follow being her first teacher. I want her to groom her with things which my mother missed or ignored teaching me as a kid unintentionally or intentionally. of course today's world is much more challenging and we need to prepare our little ones to face the world with a strong will and head.
But looking at my child's growth everyday and the way she has made me look at life in a different perspective with her innocent gestures at times...I feel the reverse is true i.e. the child is the first teacher for a mother. She has taught me to forgive and forget, enjoy the small moments to be happy, appreciate small things of life...to have a happy go lucky attitude....to be happy at the present moment and not worrying for tomorrow.

I am again not a perfect role model for my daughter to follow for everything as her mother. And as she grows, she might adapt different alternatives looking at the way I deal with my life under different situations.
But yes.. I will try to give her the best possible guidance and base, and will support her to climb the ladder of learning things on her own. Will not hold her hands, but will hold the ladder firm cheering her to climb on her own will with confidence, without fear and apprehensions of falling down..
Instilling confidence in her that even if she falls accidentally, she will only fall into my caring, protective arms.. or on the warm bed of love which I would have laid, in my absence..
As they tell a mother's love for her child is boundless...for eternity...!!!

Love shared is love multiplied....strike a deal with love...

It was during that golden time of my childhood when we were living in a small house in a colony, at our native place Hassan,Karnataka in south India.
Though our houses were small and our status lower middle class ,we were still a happy lot.There was something that kept ours souls alive and content,the same thing amiss in our lives now,even after being successful,growing well financially and having everything in life.Our souls are deprived of the happiness and contentment.

The neighborhood was small and was always crowded with people, children, cows, buffaloes etc.
Once while playing outside on a sunny day,I heard a whining sound from the corner near the cow shed in our colony.Thats when I spotted this helpless creature,a dog which looked very frail and hungry.As always my emotional side took over to help that poor life and I rushed into my house to check if I can get her some food.I asked my mother to give me something to feed the poor creature. As sensitive as me in such matters,she gave me some rotis and rice without much interrogation. I immediately ran to the dog and put the food in front of it.It was all excited and that could be felt with its action..of wagging its tail and pouncing on the food almost instantly.It gobbled down the  food happily in no time.Then I offered some water in a coconut shell..which she drank thankfully.

I really could feel its happiness and there was this unexplainable feeling inside,when someone gives you water when you are really thirsty,and food when you are starving to death.Water and food are other forms of god himself,and that's why should never be disrespected nor wasted.People who have experienced hunger can only relate to that feeling.

Something was really magical at that moment..there was a sense of gratitude as a dog naturally has..but there was also this undeemed affection which I could spot in its eyes.It was happiness multiplied on my end,as I had the opportunity and ability to fill a starving stomach..

It was an emotional bond which developed in no time between us..which made me realise after sometime in my life ,that animals are more sensitive than our fellow humans to our gestures and actions.They appreciate and reciprocate to a human's emotions much easily and sincerely..we don't have to try hard to impress those pure souls, like we need to with other human beings..

From that day,she started to follow me and even my mother wherever we went walking,be it shops nearby,school,park..as a protecter,a body guard.She used to come and lie down there till we finished our shopping,work..and then used to follow us back..used to guard our colony,barking at every new face entering the compound.Safety came automatically.Whenever hungry, she used to come and scratch on our door with her legs, I used to go and feed her with whatever I used to have at that moment. Occasionally, I used to caress her forehead like a mother does to her child and she used to love it. After all who does not love to be loved and cared for. All creatures created by the almighty crave for only one basic thing apart from food, i.e. love.
Over a period of time, she gave birth to half a dozen pups and almost 3 of them were taken by different people around, one died beneath a moving vehicle, rest were with her..

Then as time flew, we had to shift to a different house and my studies also took more importance and time. but she used to visit our new house also which was quite nearby. I was anyway not allowed to keep her inside, as ours was a very orthodox family and keeping such pets were restricted,though I was allowed to interact outside with her. Anyway I also felt she was free outside than binding her with chains inside a human shelter.

Finally, as time progressed and life moved on with different priorities I somehow didn't pay much attention to her everyday... and slowly over a period, she also vanished sometime, somewhere with her kids...not to be seen by anyone.. But that phase of my life is etched somewhere in my memory, where in I shared a special bonding with my lovely, special, unique and the most faithful friend I have ever met till now.

I believe the emotions an animal carries for its caring owner is purely love, the purest form of affection. where there is not even a trace of jealousy, hatred, ego, there is no expectation, criticism... no negativity.... and it is beyond any worldly relationships that we boast of...
It's more than magic.. it's a mystery which cannot be solved..!!!

Love to my  friend wherever she is.. whether here on this earth.. or at her original home in heaven..!!
All my inner soul tries to communicate to her is "Meet me at the doors of the heaven after a few Years dear friend, as I might as well come there as having a wonderful friend like you is nothing less than a virtue to reach there.."

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A child's upbringing...!!!is it only a mother's job???

The mother plays with my kid keeping her engaged as she did the rest of the day, while the father watches some ridiculous debate on some racial comment made by some stupid minister on the idiot box called t.v , browsing something on his phone every now and then.. smiling at some useless forward on his whatsapp , lying down on the couch...

This is a familiar picture in most of the households I suppose. Men I tell u...!!!!kids are just not their cup of tea when it comes to relaxation after a tiresome day....and they don't want to be disturbed. All the promises taken in the initial days while a woman bears a child that the child's upbringing will be a collective effort, in reality will be a far fetched dream.
All their patience, affection goes for a walk when the child gets cranky or shouts/cries even for a minute. The kids should be smiling, laughing and giggling with good health to spend a few minutes with fathers.. or else it's just stay with your mother or why don't you take him/her somewhere, while I peacefully lie down.

Now that we women are never tired or at least we will/should never admit that we are tired...as we are anyway all the time at home RELAXING. And face no CHALLENGES as the brave men at their ever-challenging work!!!
With this kind of a picture being portrayed in almost every household or say at least most of them, the least men can do is really do a self introspection on whether they are true to their other roles other than their professional life.
And the bitter fact is that no one or no debates on the issue can change ones mentality, and time is the only hope. Only time should make them realize that there is a family working behind their successful marathon of life. A little time spent on analyzing the life of their soul partners will make them a little aware of a woman's life, the tougher challenges that she faces, dynamics she handles everyday at home and outside, the untold feelings she has.., the hidden desires she possesses .. that beautiful dream she endures....!!

A few words of appreciation now and then, a little me time with kids, making a cup of tea for the tired creature at times will make the life a more smoother ride on the rugged journey of life. Doing things at least once not for oneself, but for the poor soul, who is constantly on her toes to make the man feel comfortable and happy throughout.
Unfortunately, We don't have appraisals at home and neither any promotions..!!

All that a woman carries on her strong shoulders can never be managed by the flimsy egoistic personality of a man.. never ever can he do the things she does....the roles she plays, juggles and endorses so calmly.. No, he cannot even come closer...!!
For a man, a day ends at night as he sleeps peacefully, while for a woman though the nature takes care to put her tired body to rest physically ,her restless mind will be active planning her duties for the next sunrise..

Make the men take a woman's role for a day...no no.. wait...that I think maybe its too long...say half a day....they will surely run away into a state of insanity and depression...they just cannot do it...!!
The absence of a woman for just a day will make their life a total wreck ,and their being as just meaningless and void. They will find themselves as losers.
oooops..sorry if I hurt anyone's ego during this process of playing a representative of the poor helpless kinds striving hard to express themselves and their heartfelt feelings. but who fail to nail it into their partner's brainy skulls..

Lastly, a Sincere request to all the men out there: appreciate the people(especially your wife)behind the show..  because no show can run with only actors...!!!
Understand the sacrifices made by them to make you look good to yourself..
Love them like there is no tomorrow...because there might be no tomorrow....!!!
Think people think!!one life for you and even for her..!!
We understand a man's life is not easy...but a woman's life is more difficult....
A man's mind and heart are not at peace at times, but a woman's mind and heart are more of Warfield.. battling out the emotions and feelings every moment, whilst never failing in donning her roles successfully amidst the battle in herself. She always emerges out as a winner..!!!Always!!

Sorry forgot to add a line for that section of great men who are already doing an excellent job in their roles of a family person.. a responsible son, a caring husband and a loving father....Bravo!!!great going...and Hats off!!!
Try taking time to make the other greater majority of your breed realize it....
Hopefully they will someday...sometime.. only time will tell..

And for all those wonderful women, don't forget that you are the pillar of a house.... holding everything, every aspect of your lives, every person of a family together. So hang on there, have patience as always and keep rocking..!!!
Good days are ahead!!!
Tip: if still nothing changes,use the rolling pin for better purpose than making chapathis/rotis :-)
One strong hit,and their world should rotate around only you....ha ha ha...sorry....dnt try too hard...otherwise you will be piling up your own tasks as you may also have an ailing,injured husband to take care of....:-))

Dream of a Digital India??Empower rural India with Technology!!!

To ensure a #DigitalIndia, E-governance has a key role to play.
E-governance or electronic governance is one of the very important application of Information and communication technology. It is a single point of source which provides the citizens the access to the various government services and information electronically.
The main objective of it being simplifying and supporting the transactions and activities of the government, citizens and businesses individually and also between them.

It not only makes the functioning of the system more transparent and approachable to the layman, but also saves on the resources providing a paper-free environment. The loads of paper work, records, files piled in the government offices are a sorry sight for the eyes, a huge burden to locate a specific data and a struggle to get the work completed as their is no ownership of the jobs. With e-governance, there will be simplification of the whole process leading to better record/files
management, ownership of the assigned job, effective completion of the work in the assigned time, saving time for both the involved parties and all this in turn making the lives of everyone smooth sailing.

The e-governance will give a dream platform for the citizens with accurate information providing necessary access to all important communication, updates from the government. It will provide an easy access to all the different services like paying bills online, taxes, khathas, Pension claim, passport, visa, banking, insurance, getting the credits online like EPF and others, knowing the status of applications and progress etc. All this and more without having to visit the respective government offices nor stand in long queues, sweating it out, arguing with the irresponsible officials at times.
Saying this ,a user can utilize the services 24/7 at his doorstep at the time convenient to him, saving his own time for other important things.

Apart from all the basic services mentioned, the main vision of the e-governance is to empower people to have a clean corruption free nation. For which I feel the very objective of the e-governance should be to see that the funds granted for specific parties be it a department, people, groups/villages for the specific purposes etc. should reach only those intended parties for those intended services, without any 3rd parties interference. With this there is no chance of the misuse of the funds by those sources by unauthorized means.

To put all these services, information and data together one of the means which e-governance uses is e-portal. e-portal is a website which forms the main user interface for all the users to access the different data related to different fields, and also utilize the different services provided as mentioned above. The various types of e-portals available on internet today are education portals, health portals, agriculture portals, national portals, business portals etc. which are entitled for providing
help/information and service in those specific fields. For example, a health portal will be one which gives information on different treatments available in different hospitals, option of taking and online appointment, chatting with a doctor for online information etc.; an education portal provides the various courses available in different educational institutions, courses offered online, exams etc.

Basically these portals are designed in a way that they are easily accessible, have a self-help guide, simple procedures to fill forms/apply claims. Provisions for the citizens to be able to put their views and also question the respective authorities on various national matters; review the government policies that are under planning; providing feedback on the quality of public sector service and many important topics which are debatable are all part of an effective e-governance platform.

But with all this and more, for the DREAM vision of a DIGITAL INDIA to be a reality it should be evenly planned ,the digitization should be everywhere.. especially the rural part of India.so it is very important to educate the poor, needy and illiterate, empower them with technology after educating them on it, through internet or direct class room method.
Because unless the rural India is armored with the required knowledge, information, technology via trustable local sources ,the dream of digital India will just be a mirage of water in a desert.
For that the very first step should be to educate the children in the rural areas with more and more knowledge of the technology, by using technology.
Install the schools/institutions a good number of computers with necessary software, employ knowledgeable and service oriented teachers to groom these children. Once they get their foothold in the domain and be equipped with the knowledge of using the technology in their lives, they can easily guide the others in their neighborhood, and also be the representatives for their future change as well as the future of the nation.
Only on achieving this, Our dream of a #DigitalIndia will be fulfilled completely, otherwise it would just be as good as offering a brightly glowing lamp to a blind person to lead his way.

As every new technological solution e-governance with its list of pros, it has its own challenges to face be it how reliable/consistent the data provided by the government officials, timely availability of the information, lack of accountability due to technical glitches, retaining the trust of the citizens etc..
but irrespective of all this, we can definitely look out for a digital future for our country, with the rapid technological development happening every moment everyday...!!!Very soon, everything will be in bits and bytes...making our lives more simpler and more effective...!!
Looking forward for our mother India to become a D-I-G-I-T-A-L I-N-D-I-A....!!!

Intel is taking up the initiative in driving this vision, visit the website for more details.
http://www.intel.in/

Happiness....its right in front of you...!!!

Happiness is a lovely positive feeling, which makes a person to have a optimistic approach towards life no matter what.

For me, it is my everyday life, every instance, every moment of a day which gives me a reason to get that beautiful curve on the face. I try spreading it in ways possible with other beings who I feel are deprived of it either by just giving a smile to the most serious faces I see outside.. or helping out someone by sharing what I have, doing what I can.

In a phase of motherhood, where your little one wraps you around his/her little finger, the happiness doubles with every little gesture of the child. Right from the first smile my child gives me early in the morning when she wakes up, till she snuggles in my arms to sleep at night, all the moments spent with my little one bring only happiness and more happiness for me. She gives me that lovely delightful feeling by just being there as a part of me, a part of my life.

The only thing apart from my child which gives me happiness is listening to music. Music, takes one away to a completely new magical world, healing you internally by touching those unexplored,unreachable regions of heart.

Try listening to your favorite tune or music when you are feeling down, it takes care of your moods in no time and you feel more positive, your spirits lifted to a different level. Music for me is divine, the purest form the creator himself. It has helped me to overcome my negativity, frustrations at different phases of my life. It has helped me to be more positive, enthusiastic towards life.

Singing whether melodious or not for others ears helps me to relax, rejoice the happiness springing inside. The best and lethal combination of it comes when I sing and dance with my little one locked up in our little room with loud music on, with no restrictions, no inhibitions, no strings attached ..just free flowing music and we both floating with the music in a complete trance. Nothing comes close to the joy which we experience. I feel I have lived my life in that half an hour of isolation with music and only pure music.

On a much simpler note, for me, happiness was/is never at the destination but it is on the journey of life, the little moments/things we do/endure.., the lives we light up with our noble acts, the faces we light up with our positive vibes..

Be it cooking for my family, reading my favorite book, dressing up my little one, taking photographs of the sunset, having a hot cup of coffee over the window sill with a cool breeze blowing on my face, eating my mother's home made hot pakodas, hugging my husband when he is back tired from work, sleeping on my kid's lap at times.. everything...each of these non-significant acts and many more define happiness for me..
So people, if you want to experience Happiness, enjoy the road on the journey of life, the little things/moments whilst travelling...
As it is nothing else, nowhere else it lies..no need to run behind it, it is there in front of you, right now...so go on, embrace it..rejoice!!!!celebrate!!

Happiness always!!!

Spread love,make the world your family..

The best moments in life are the ones where in your acts make a difference to other's lives and you find yourself more happier looking at their happiness.

The third birthday of our little one was more than an event to remember as we shared our joy together with the kids of an orphanage. Going to an orphanage is a regular event in our family though, but this time it was extra special as it was in a complete female orphanage, of about 90 girls. Some having parents but left forsaken, some with no parents ages ranging from 3-12 years.

We thoroughly enjoyed the evening together with our family members and with those tiny tots who formed the other part of our family. Though themselves deprived of their rights, love and affection at such a tender age they never failed to shower their affection on us. We made my child cut the cake, while those little ones sang the most beautiful happy birthday melody I have ever heard. My little one rejoiced seeing her unknown friends wishing her with full heart. Though she may not understand the importance of sharing at her age, she had a satisfied look on her face as she had ultimately cut her
favorite pink strawberry cake.

We had arranged a meal for all the kids, and we served them ourselves with some other elder students and helpers there. And we also sat on the ground to have our food with them. They started their food only after said their prayers, all in sync before touching anything on their plates. They then enjoyed the food served, not wasting even a speck of food. We as educated people do have a lot to learn from them seeing their discipline in their way of life. After all how many of us thank the almighty for giving us the food and shelter and how many of us respect food??

These basic necessities are very basic for us and we don't give it a second thought to waste money nor the food. We don't mind spending 1000-2000Rs on a piece of pizza for a fun evening, but think 100 times before donating a piece of bread to the hungry stomachs. The fact remains the same, money spent on a pizza can fill many stomachs for a day.

Finally, I shared a carton of about 200 books I had bought for them with their orphanage head to initiate a small library and circulate the books among them for their reading. After all what can be a better gift for a growing child.

It was really a memorable and priceless evening for us together with those little wonderful creations of god.

The least I feel and advice everyone who are financially stable and those with a giving heart can do
is share their special occasions with the less privileged people, donate things used/never going to used lying in their attics..be it anything useful like clothes, books, toys, household items, just about anything.

Just share whenever, wherever possible. Give them a feeling of family, of togetherness, of happiness...as happiness given is always happiness multiplied..

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Move on life,am too hard for you to break....

#StartANewLife
When I look back, its actually surprising to see that I have started my life many times afresh..be it as a responsible working daughter, as a non working homemaker, a caring mother...and maybe more roles to be donned in future as well as per the circumstances life throws in.

I know these phases are part of every woman's journey.. but for me start of a new life was when I had to juggle multiple roles at home, after my father had a stroke.
Unpredictable as it's very nature, life never fails to surprise you, positively or negatively. All was well and my family was rejoicing with my new born baby..
It was just 2 months since my delivery, that one day suddenly my father had a stroke and everything went haywire at home. He had to be admitted to the hospital, and soon he got multiple ailments accompanying his stroke like herpes, urinary bladder infection etc.Depression from all of these together pulling him down was obvious.

 I with my little baby in my frail health after C-section was unable to help much in running down to the hospital. I was shattered inside looking at my father's frail and no-life image. He developed several complications even after coming home and had to be again admitted to hospital. With these frequent hospital visits and unbearable sufferings his morale had died inside. I boosted his confidence as much as possible with my words even though I was broken inside. I had to hold my mother strong enough to go through this phase as she had also weakened from the circumstances and her age. With all this, I had to protect my child too from any infection that could spread from my father, as she was the most vulnerable.
 

For my mother's sons it was duty and headache to face the situation.but for us it was a responsibility to save and support the pillar of our family and lives.
With no one to support us morally in that vital hour, me and my mother struggled with our infants, me with my child and she with my father respectively. Every moment passed painfully and unpredictable.Within a few months, my father recovered though his speech drastically reduced from before. but slowly with time and seeing his grandchild's playful antics he became his normal self. It was a new life for me to see my father back as himself, with a unspoken sigh of relief within my mother's heart.
That critical period made me strong as a person. The situations thrown in by life may be monstrous at times, but I have made myself hard as a mountain. As I know that the pain or sorrow hitting a rock will only hurt itself..

Alas!!the changes life makes in you as a person....
Today, my soul remains unruffled...!!!Come on life throw more of your challenges..am ready...but be sure to prepare yourself with first aid.

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Optimism is a child's play

If you ask me to define optimism, I cannot, instead I can ask you to have a feel of it after reading my take on it.

Optimism, the only one thing synonymous to it in my current phase of life..is my Child, and everything about my child.
Motherhood in general has a lots of ups and downs in one's life but the highs which it brings into a woman's life overpowers all other challenges. Optimism fills in your life just with a child's presence. Their smile, their actions, their every movement fills a mother's heart with nothing but happiness and content. My little one completes me as a person with a positive attitude, grooms me everyday to handle my life in a simpler and better way.

All I have done from day one of my child in my arms is LEARN and only LEARN. If you say "Learning from a child, how is it possible???" I say Yes, it is possible in
million ways, be it being patient, be it being able to multi-task, be it developing a forgive and forget attitude towards everyone, be it enjoying the small petty things of life, and more. You just have to have a open mind to welcome their thoughts and then you will realize that you actually learn more from them than what you teach them.

A child gives you that hope, a meaning for your life, and a new desire to live.
A child enjoys and rejoices at every small thing be it a new toy, a funny face you make, a cuddle from his/her favorite arms..just about anything.
A child never holds grudges, he/she just forgets and forgives. He/she comes and hugs its mother even though the same person is spanking or screaming on them.
A child sleeps within seconds since, his/her mind and heart are pure without any blemishes. No regret of yesterday, no burden of the present day and no aspirations of tomorrow, they sleep..they actually sail through it like a cool breeze.

On the other hand we as grown ups require certain things to happen, something to be achieved, to feel happy. We never enjoy the small things and never happy on the go.
Why not realize that Happiness is a journey and not the destination, and the fuel for covering that journey is Optimism.
We never forgive and forget easily, and always have an ill feeling for others because of our false ego.
As a result we can never rest peacefully, with overloaded baggage of pessimism, past regrets and future desires. Sleep becomes a luxury, a task with our ever running minds and heavy hearts.
Why not follow a simple approach to leading our lives putting ourselves in a child's shoes. Simplify every aspect of life,unwind your thoughts, slow down, lighten your heart, laugh heartily, love everyone. By this we can actually achieve more than we desire and also be in peace with our inner self.

I have experienced /experiencing optimism and living my life from my Child's perspective in every little thing she does. And being my only reason of happiness, the innumerable moments of joy she has been giving me everyday are immeasurable.
I just ooze optimism in everything I do or say...and you can feel that very thing while and after reading this.

If you still have not felt it, just go out and smell that fresh air, loosen yourself, play with a kid or be a kid yourself, you will realize life is not that bad at all.

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A mother's baby steps of learning from her child...

Human behavior and emotions I tell you, it is so unpredictable not only of others but of ourselves sometimes. We wouldn't expect ourselves to behave that way but ultimately the hormones take over or whatever happens to the wiring inside, our output is completely chaotic and uncalled for most of the times, which we realize/regret later.

Everyone has weakness and I too am trying to overcome mine slowly, gradually.Anger is one sure shot toxin, which corrupts your entire brain wiring and ultimately burns your complete system down along with the relation with the one to whom it is targeted.
Me being very short tempered have tried/still trying to control my anger especially after being a mother.

A child definitely brings out so many unknown hidden facets in a mother like her humorous side - making funny faces, pranks, stories to amuse the child and keep it entertained;
her teaching ability - right from instilling good behavior to reading/writing;
her singing and dancing potential - lullaby for their sleep, rhymes and dancing with them like crazy when alone, for their favorite music;
her multi tasking ability - cook, clean, read, sing, feed ,get angry, love all emotions and tasks in 1 platter;
her wild and naughty/notorious side - fooling the child to do/not do certain things .....acting like a child herself sometimes.
The list is endless...,like this every other aspect concealed within her will be unveiled in no time.
At the same time a child can also test, play around and burst ones bubble of self control and repair it in no time.
For example, on a funnier note I never imagined a wild animal inside me until sometime, after shouting and screaming my lungs out and pouncing on her actually like one.
She wept, then suddenly came, embraced me tightly even though I was the one spanking her.
I realized my erratic behavior guilt made my eyes wet her face, me apologizing to her by the billionth peck on her warm cheeks...but by then she already had dozed off in my arms.
Realized only a child can make you feel like a loser in life.

Wish it would have been easier to forgive and forget for us matured and enlightened grown ups.

And I know tomorrow when I grow old...and become childlike(as every other old parent is), and she hurts me someway as a grown up, I will naturally forgive her like every other mother...and will embrace her.
Seriously I bet that no other relationship in this entire world can be as beautiful as the one shared by a mother and a child.

We usually want to preserve our false ego, give a lot of importance to self esteem and don't want to forgive. It is not that we all should become saints.
It is just that we should not get stuck to any situation or circumstance, carrying the huge load of ego, anger, grudge ,rivalry, tit for tat attitude, jealousy, all other feelings of negativity for others who give you the same treatment. This will only increase the burden on the already screwed up mind of a human being.
So instead try to simplify the situations thrown in, think, reason and simplify the reactions at the moment and whatever happens, just move on with the journey ...unloading all the unnecessary baggage from time to time to have a lighter mind for a better self.
Be at peace with your inner self and the world will be a better place to live.
And of course I can share all this with you when my mentor is asleep..

 As anyway she is doing her job even though asleep, invoking the philosopher and writer in me..
As usual, my little one is going on teaching me, grooming me to be able to handle life easily in her own way. And am taking tiny steps as a toddler in learning these facts of life....

Hoping to grow up fast along with her....!!!!
Thank you darling and sorry again for mamma's behavior..!! Love ..and only love to you.....

AI,a fairy tale too long..

"AI" is a typical Shankar movie with lots of glamor, fantastic locales, superb
cinematography, catchy music and loads of action. Though it is not giving a social message this time as in other movies like 'Gentleman','Indian','Mudhalvan','Anniyan'..,it simply delivers the logic of Love is blind as in our fairy tale 'Beauty and the beast', that Love is a beautiful bond between 2 souls, regardless of the external beauty.

The movie is a simple revenge story, with a very much predictable twist of tale. Actually anyone and everyone can guess who is the culprit and so there is no suspense to hold you to your seats.
It is a bit too long a movie of 3 hours which has very elaborate action sequences which most of the time make you cry for help(not for the hero, but for yourself)..The only things which keeps you put for the entire duration are the songs and their picturisation. Few scenes and songs shot in the beautiful locales of lexiaguo and Guilin, china are worth watching on big screen.

 The Cinematography by none other than P.C.Sreeram is breathtaking, don't know whether to credit him or the director for choosing such lovely locations for shooting.

Vikram has done a commendable job just like in his other movies pushing himself to the extent of donning an ugly look, which most of the heroes might back off from. Don't know how he has managed to pull off 3 different sizes and looks in the movie starting with a body builder to being a slim, lean model to a feeble, weak look seriously his determination and struggle for achieving the same might have been enormous. but at the same time he should try more meaningful movies for an actor of his caliber, one which can completely exploit the performer in him.

The beautiful Amy Jackson is stone faced with zero expressions throughout. Shankar always tries these pretty new faces, but I think he needs to get them some acting classes before they are essaying the roles.

A.R.rahman has done a good job in music, though not excellent. The song "pookkalae sattru oyivedungal" is beautifully sung by Shreya Ghoshal and Haricharan and amazingly shot in the picturesque locales.
Definitely, one time watch just for the crores of loot spent on the beautiful sets, locales and the evergreen Chiyaan Vikram.

 3 out of 5 stars for Shankar's "I"(AI).

PK, a nice attempt by Hirani

"PK", the most awaited movie of the year by the deadly combination of Aamir khan and Rajkumar hirani gives a dose of our 101 religions ,god and god men in an intelligent but humorous way.

 It is a satirical take on how most of the people are blinded by superstition and religious nonsense.
Aamir khan as usual excels in his role as an alien...with his natural and powerful expressions and performance. His cute face makes him a perfect fit for his role and he has once again proved his mettle as an actor par excellence.
Anushka Sharma is ok in her role, though her lip job definitely makes her look funny in certain angles and scenes.
Bomman Irani, I really wonder what made an actor of his caliber who gave us such powerful performances in history to choose such small, no-value-add roles in his recent movies be it this one or previous ones like HNY. Seriously he is insignificant here when compared to his memorable roles as Prof. Asthana and Prof. Virus. He should start focusing on good roles than showing his gratitude to old friends.
Sushanth Rajput singh has little to add, but It was a happy sight to see Sanjay dutt on screen again in a jovial role.

Rajkumar hirani has delivered yet another great entertainer in PK, with his Midas touch.
Having a natural flair for comedy, he has always done justice delivering a message through his simple movies with a dash of humor and definitely, he succeeds in this attempt too.
Though the story goes a little slow after interval and lacks the natural flow as in 3 idiots(which for me by far is the best movie till date),the sheer star presence of Aamir shrouds all those minuses.
People who have seen "OMG"(paresh rawal) will see similarities in the thought behind the movie and FYI that also was a fantastic movie.(watch it, if you haven't earlier)

Music by Ram sampath and Shantanu moitra is catchy, with simple hummable songs just like RKH's previous movies.
Aamir looks adorable in "tharki chokro" and "love is a waste of time"..doesn't look like his age at all.. 50yrs old...I doubt:-)

A great movie of 2.5hrs with a simple storyline, good humor, music and performance delivering a message to us, the people on earth.There is only creator of all of us, but we have created/bifurcated multiple images of him in the name of religion.
That the god/ image of god created by different religion and god men advocating those religions are only false images and it's nonsensical to follow religious nonsense in the name of god and rituals.
It somewhere echoes my idea too, as I have expressed earlier in my write ups, that God has never wished for these so called religious practices in the name of worship..
He only aspires people to be humane enough to Co-exist peacefully , understand each others problems and help/support in difficulty, that being the biggest worship/prayer offered to him.
That we are all creation of god and that the creator of all should be worshipped as a faith,universally..in a sensible manner,rather than falling prey to petty rituals and superstitions.
Do we have some sort of seal on each of us by the creator to differentiate one other.
This difference and division is bought in by us great humans by creating and following millions of god and alienating each other by the religious practices.

Definitely worth a watch!!!This feels like a fresh breeze of air, among the 100 stupid movies released this year which felt like stink.
Good attempt..and a Paisa vasool..!!Go watch it..

For a mother,a child defines ECSTASY...

Today I relived my childhood through my little Angel.I felt ecstatic, tears forced their way out of my eyes, because of the happiness surging inside.
It was not ME sitting there watching her perform, but a proud mother of a lovely blessing of god..... whom I felt, was just sometime back wriggling inside my womb, is already dancing on a stage, in front of a huge audience..!!!

I have been this tension and worry freak for quite sometime , in matters pertaining to her be it me cryi...ng when she got her first vaccination(and subsequent ones too),her fevers, her colds, her any discomfort/pain, me sobbing in front of her school gates on her first day, or getting nervous before her first stage performance..everything till now.. and further on..

I had sleepless nights with nightmares thinking what she would do and how she would react. Though hardly a week old to her new environment of playschool, she didn't hesitate or cry a wee bit but, enjoyed herself and danced with full of life..!!
And I couldn't help but also dance in the place I was sitting seeing her enthusiasm, clapping loudly with the other parents,who were doing the same for their children..
Her tiny sparkling eyes were searching for us amidst the audience .and finally that glitter in her eyes and energy inside her catapulted to a different level once she spotted her most admired faces of Amma, appa and ajji among the unfamiliar faces.
She smiled, wiggled, jumped, grooved, danced away to glory...
 And my heart was matching the same beats and dancing inside and I didn't remember anything else for those 4-5 minutes.

 I forgot everything..no worries, no tension...just felt being in a trance.. sheer joy ,excitement, happiness and all other feelings with synonymous adjectives..
Wow!!what an experience and what an awesome feeling seeing the life YOU bought into this world taking its own shape and growing beautifully .Priceless..!!!
Another addition to my treasure chest of memories...

Thank you baby for making me proud of my existence in this world.. again and again..!!

But the saddest and toughest part of a child's upbringing and growth is that the children grow out of our comfort zone in no time and open up into a new world with all the new learning and new connections, where as we parents never grow up. They always remain our babies and we always want to protect and shield them with the armor called love..
With a ray of hope inside that some day at a later point in life ,the child will offer us the same armor of love or at least cherish whatever we have provided them.
And the same question repeats inside me..
Why at all they grow up??

'CHILDREN' the super 'ABSORBERS'

It is sheer ecstasy when you see your little one growing up and do certain things which are pleasantly unpredictable at times.Specially when they remind you of the manners and things you taught them. My little one says 'excuse me' if I/anyone sneezes, yawns.. and forgets to say the phrase, Says 'thank you' for almost all things ,says 'sorry' even if I stumble and hurt myself, or she hurts herself:-),says 'please' so pleasingly that I feel guilty sometimes, She says 'clean up' if things are lying haphazardly and she wants everything to stay put in its destined place..be it the phone in its cradle, spectacle on her grandfather's eyes when it's lying around or on his head, the used plates in the sink, play things in the play basket everything..
Even if am negligent sometime(though generally am not, I pretend in front of her to see her reaction)..she takes it up to get the things done..)
Children definitely are super absorbers taking and pulling in everything you give them and emitting exactly the same kind of output..

 They being wonderful observers, react to different situations and do things the same way you tend to do in that situation..imitating your every move.
They act as mirror reflections of your own self. If you see a clear image of self in them, then you are going on the right path or if you see a distorted image, first you need to mend yourself of the projections you are giving them.
So expecting calmness from them while you display anger, cleanliness but showcasing a messy environment, respect by showing disrespect, practicality showing illusions is illogical..
BE and DO, what you expect from you child.

They are like clay molds at an early age and can be given a proper shape, based on your artistic talent. They assume whatever shape you give them and once done, it is very difficult to reshape the structure.. so carefully and smartly mold them to be beautiful structures, which can stand on its own in life over time and withstand any obstacles and calamities staying erect.
Giving them a foundation so robust and strong, that they do not break down at any point and stay put under any circumstance..facing the challenges life throws with a smile, until finally that life itself bows in front of them to be it's master.

Am no pro in parenting, but my kid makes me feel good about myself being a mother. Whatever I try to express in my write ups about children is just to make people realize the tiny immortal joys of motherhood, which one should never miss in the hustle bustle, other tensions/worries and the mad race of proving ones individuality. Slow down and take time to appreciate these small moments.
For me these are the moments which are making my present life worthy and will make my life worth living at a later point too with a treasure box of these lovely memories gathered and stored.
The feelings anyhow cannot be put in words, words fail me every time I try expressing that joy surging inside a mother seeing her child grow in her shadow.

She sleeps peacefully undisturbed...detached by any of the worldly tensions interacting with GOD, her creator....,as I lay awake looking at her innocent face...
Hope I could sleep like her....!!!