friendship is the key to successful parenting

A mother is the child's first teacher..but should always attempt to become its best friend rather than an instructor.The fact is a child is the mother's best friend and the very first teacher..right from the time it's in her womb.
The child invokes positive thoughts in her by its innocent acts of forgiveness,forgetfulness,love minus any selfish or negative thoughts.
Buddiness definitely helps to nurture that love and special bonding that exists only between a mother and child.The very nature of friendship in the relation makes it more open, a trust or faith inculcated making the parwebt child relation more stronger.

My kid is my life's best gift with whom I have shared the most wonderful moments of my life...She learnt walking after crawling on her stomach,then with her arms,then standing,tripping,falling...Teaching me that you learn only after attempting,so never fear failures...
She came to my lap even after I spanked her..teaching me to forgive and forget.
She slept peacefully after all the spanking again to teach me..that forgive all the sinners,don't carry any hatred in your head..that will give you a peaceful sleep.
She said sorry,thanks,excuse me at times when I forgot to say the same..teaching me thar we need to follow the discipline all the time..
She asks me to sort things if I have scattered things when in bad mood..telling me things are to be followed and tasks to be done irrespective of our moods.
Most of the things after teaching her directly/indirectly which i had forgotten she reminds me again and again..

A child parent relationship should be of friends as it will help them connect with each other and accept one another more easily.The parent will have the kids trust and the openness will allow the kid to unveil themselves completely with their parents... Love will flow naturally... And life will be smoother...

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DIET-Deriving-Intelligent-Eating-Technique for a healthy You

Everyone in the current world, because of the busy and mechanical lifestyle are on the onset of slimming down and getting into a good shape. but people should realize and slowly are on the realization curve that it is equally important to maintain one's health during the process of slimming and trimming their figures.

Diet is one of the techniques to lose those extra pounds, but only if done in a methodical manner added with some physical work out. Then definitely good results can be expected. But it should never be done on own in a haphazard manner without knowing the health issues in oneself, with no prior consultation with a nutritionist.

An ill planned crash diet might help a person knock off a few pounds but, will definitely make him/her physically/mentally weak and frail. The health will be affected internally with the vital organs of the body defied of the essential nutrients. The results though not immediate might start  showing up slowly with hormone variations, varying blood-sugar levels, blood pressures etc. No successful results achieved in a short time are a good sign. Weight loss should be a gradual process, to attain positive results.

A well planned diet should be derived in consultation with a health expert. The nutritionist will sketch out a clear diet plan based on your body structure and needs, with a balance of all the nutrients required by the body everyday. The food diet must include proper vitamins, proteins, minerals, calcium, iron, fat and fiber.

The first and simplest rule should be to stop eating all the junk food available everywhere nowadays which are with zero nutrition. The food consumed everyday by us must include the age old herbs and spices which are highly beneficial.
e.g. Honey considered the liquid gold has excellent medicinal properties with its antibacterial and antifungal nature. The uses of having it are unlimited be it for weight reduction, for digestion, coughs colds, skin treatments, hair care, anti-cancer properties and what not.
Similarly there are many age old spices as listed below which are highly rich with health benefits. Cinnamon (lowers blood sugars and cholesterol levels);Turmeric (anti-oxidant and antiseptic); Ginger (anti-inflammatory, cold, cough and digestion) and many more.
Of course a proper diet like this should always be accompanied by a balanced physical and mental workouts. Many people might workout physically but neglect the intellectual part. but very few realize that both go hand in hand. It is very important to keep the mind calm, cool and composed in every instance of today's life. The determination to workout physically also gets invoked by it.

The physical workouts can be anything from Yoga, aerobics to what we can inculcate in our daily routine be it walking a couple of miles, climbing the stairs, jogging, running, cleaning, sweeping the house, mopping etc., while the mental work out should be a 15 minute meditation channelizing the energies within, be it any peaceful corner of the house you can find.

So the definition of a perfect health is a proper balance of a diet, physical and mental workouts. The body should be treated as a temple and kept clean, peaceful and energized instead of spoiling it with junk food, a sedentary lifestyle and negative thoughts. That's  the best answer for a healthy life.

Check out the link below for health benefits of a honey diet on the Dabur brand home page, which is a leading brand in quality food products.
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Stay connected...surfing everything on the go,anytime anywhere..

Cricket is undoubtedly the biggest craze of India, where people eat, breath, drink ,live the game. The game is definitely something which engrosses people of all the ages ,truly hypnotizing them during the affair. People forget their surroundings, activities, jobs, everything sometimes even themselves just to watch their favorite cricket gods play and cheer at the top of their voice to make their country win at any cost.

The shouts can be heard in every house cheering them for every 4's,6's and those shallow breaths during those last final overs,the celebration on the streets after a win is definitely a sight to watch. The national flag swaying with pride, the loud fireworks, the shouts of 'India... India' at top of their
voice the insane crowd make even the other disinterested lot to turn their heads and salute the nation.
On the contrary the roads wear a deserted look if the teams lose the match. People bet on the sport on their favorite teams and go to even the extent of harming themselves in the process, if they and their teams are defeated.. Such is the insanity and mad passion for the game in India and maybe even in other countries.

Though the ardent fans of the game do whatever it takes to watch the game be it cancelling their important meetings/appointments, delaying their important events...the rest of the people who have no other go but have to go on with their duties and tasks which cannot be cancelled or delayed at any cost, fortunately can stay connected to the game with the technology available today.

The internet has revolutionized the world and nothing is out of reach even with your hands in your pocket. Anywhere, everywhere even in the remotest corner the net enables people to keep their interest alive and feel contented on not missing out the big game or anything they aspire to watch. But like everything in life, with every comfort comes a discomfort. That is, with the outdated browsers and low data rate it becomes more of a nightmare rather than a blessing to watch anything live, be it a game of cricket or other favorite shows.

The slow speeds keeps you gaping at the screens waiting to know what happened...and makes you just throw the gadget in irritation, if the screen just freezes there. That's where the modern browsers come into picture, and the new UC browser comes as a savior to keep you from breaking your cool as well as the phone, in those situations as those situations never occur with this browser.

The new UC browser allows you to watch your favorite game so smoothly that you never have to miss even a ball and you end up enjoying the match much better than being in the stadium itself anywhere, anytime at your ease. Be it being away in a remote corner of the world, trekking on the hills, dancing in the club, waiting in the airport, travelling in the train, enjoying in the marriage.. anywhere everywhere...surf it all...surf it fast is the motto of future.

For checking more information in the UC browser click on the below links and enjoy the game whenever, wherever at your comfort.
Visit: http://www.ucweb.com/ and also check out the link UC Cricket

 

whats the rush!!!Let the children BE children...

Everyone nowadays are aspiring or shall I say insanely aspiring the god sent little ones to be- completely independent, socially interactive, highly disciplined, super knowledgeable, supremely multi talented, multi linguistic and what not right from just a few months of their birth.
Be it parents, teachers or whomever.. everyone is in the race of pushing them to become scholars the very next day after their coming into earth.

Life's anyways a race after one juncture...so why start pushing those tiny tots to the game so early..

Come on people, let them grow peacefully at their own pace, enjoying their childhood like we did in our days.. playing hide and seek.. hearing mythological stories from their grannies...sleeping peacefully in their mother' arms.. climbing on their fathers shoulders, walking in the parks....running in the garden.. playing in the mud.. smelling the rains.. dancing in the rain...
What's the rush..!!!.let the saplings grow in a peaceful environment at their pace..

Remember, they are just children, and not some crops to use tools /techniques to ripen them before they are ready for it..

It is ok, to wish for the child's wellbeing and success. but don't stress them too much that they will breakdown. Let them live their childhood with that innocence, naughtiness, laughter.....
They will anyway grow up before you realize and you won't get what you aspire in a child at that time completely drowned in their own fancy world of friends, dreams adolescence etc etc.. they will never be that child, again.. never ever...
So before its too late...take your child in your arms, hug them, love them boundlessly... like theirs no tomorrow... , let them be themselves for that period....
Because their might be no more tomorrows....with them as kids...
Though we never grow up as parents.. they will never come back as kids.....!!!

Just slow down....push the breaks...the accelerator can rest because on the downward slopes on the journey of life, you don't need acceleration.. gravity will take care.. oh course when there are upward slopes...they will learn to accelerate slowly on their own..
So as life throws its challenges they will learn to live..it need not be taught.. actually cannot be taught.... Life is the best teacher....so do your best to make them understand and make them capable of solving their problems rather than providing solutions every time.That will be the best gift you can ever give them...!!!
Instead of always holding a glowing lamp in their path...teach them to light one themselves, as that will go a long way in seeing their future bright even when we are not there....

Tanu weds manu returns, but fails to impress...

Caught up with the Bollywood flick, "tanu weds manu returns" over the weekend. but was badly surprised that it was unnecessarily hyped as one of the great movie etc etc..
Disclaimer : I really have a different take on the movie, a totally different one...Again friends, these are only my views after watching the movie of approximately 120 minutes....,so your views might differ based on your taste and analysis.

The movie starts with the climax of its prequel "Tanu weds manu" as the first sequence and then takes a time leap of 4 years..
The story starts showing the bitterness in the married life of tanu and Manu.. both fighting out in the rehabilitation center to prove their point of who is wrong for their relationship to sour.but with the husband losing cool ends up in the mental asylum for a few days.

The tale moves from UK to India as our hero and heroine come to India one after the other to prove something to themselves or to one another.. actually didn't get for what??
The heroine moves on with her life singing loudly and dancing wildly on the streets saying 'MOVE ON', with her life now being portrayed more as a drunkard with her holding a bottle in every other scene, openly and freely flirting with every tom, dick and harry who were part of her past life...
She forgetting her present and openly moving on with her old crushes and her old lover actually shows her in a different light.On the other hand, the hero after coming to India, moves around the city with his comical pal , aimlessly with a blank expression on his face. Sends a notice to his wife out of his frustration and anger.. and one day finally falls for another damsel resembling no one else. but his own wife..(...whom he resents and is fed up of, after his 4 years of marital hell)
He loves this haryanvi version of his wife whom he spots accidently, who is a state level athlete, with a pixie cut and buck teeth..(and this girl would also unfortunately have her alliance fixed to the same lover of his wife ,with whom her marriage broke from the first movie...:-))))Coincidences...loads!!!!

Finally when he decides to marry her for god knows for whatever reasons known to him after such a short interaction, his wife drops in suddenly to persuade him to come back to her..She stays back with her family to witness the wedding doing more drunken emotional acts...dances.....

Being such a bold woman to the extent of divorcing her husband...now grows so weak that she gets drunk and pleads him not to marry again.The marriage stops at the 6th phera , as the Haryanvi bride realizes that no one will be happy with this commitment including her groom..(unfortunately they can't realize all this earlier..it has to be the last moment.She asks the groom whether he is ok taking the last phera which will confirm/seal their marriage, for which he sheepishly tells ,he is finding it very difficult and will not able to do it ...(the moron would have gone ahead and married her hadn't the girl asked him one last time).She walks boldly out of the mandap, asking his wife to pay the expenses of the forsaken marriage. but ultimately runs inside to cry behind doors..
The couple are together again to fight for their life.....

Summary,
The bold and crazy wife who acts really BOLD drunk almost all the time, trying to rebuild her previous breakups, old crushes by moving on with them realizes her love (or whatever might be the verb) for her husband, only once her foolish husband decides to marry again..!!
The real fool of a husband falls for a duplicate of his wife...immediately after a fight with her...and boldly confronts her village people to marry her, even convinces her that he will be a man and marry her despite any circumstances ends up going back on his words at the last phera ONLY after his bride asks him...
The couple reunite.....illustrating the true moral Indian values..
Whew...!!! That's the story..

Well there are a few sleazy punch lines, unnecessary songs and meaningless comedy thrown in between this mad story of the couple.. which fails to draw the laughs..
Some scenes, unnecessary sad songs, slow transitions between scenes left me yawning and wanted to just stretch my legs and sleep.. But with the 101 babies wailing at the top of their voice which could be heard when the screen went silent every other scene, with some other small kids jumping around on the steps in between the rows , with their parents just shhh shhhing them...,I was actually wide awake....;-)

Though the movie might have made 150 crores or more.(just like many other illogical movies in the club...)...it failed drastically for me as an entertainer. Unlike 'Queen' which was a lovely movie where in everything was balanced.. and left the audience asking for more of Kangana. but this movie though with her double effect fails to create a similar effect.

Kangana ranauth definitely proves her acting mettle in both her roles, especially the one with the haryanvi accent...and looks refreshingly bold and beautiful in the other.
Madhavan.R aka maddy hasn't much to offer looks pale, old, wide with no charm....and poorly projected.. Should actually choose roles suitably. He has that blank expression almost in every scene.. maybe he also got confused as to what to emote with all the confusion put in his role.
Jimmy Shergill who definitely excels as a performer with a great potential is wasted as usual...by his poor selection of movies.. He just is another accessory for the movie who seems desperate to get married to whomever or whatever.

In this era of movies, where the supporting actors do have real meaningful roles to emote this movie fails in that category also. Remember the characters of Vijayalakshmi, the Italian Chef, the 3 alien friends of Rani and even the little brother of Rani in the movie 'Queen' who all gave so much life to the movie.. despite their few scenes on the screen. Unlike here.. where no supporting actors add any value of any sort ,but only irritation. Their roles poorly etched by the director...adds just one more reason to regret the movie.

Nowadays, sequels are just pouring in for every other movie in bollywood and other woods too.. without any original or hatke plots....I know movies needn't have lot of logic all the time. but this one somehow failed to entertain also. They just try to cash on directing sequels after sequels with some mediocre plots, if the first movie becomes a hit....haven't we seen Dhoom 1,2,3....Singham 1,2...Murder 1,2....what not... No originality..no freshness nothing out of the box....same old stories with lots of unnecessary comedy and songs...'Tanu weds manu returns' just didn't work for me..:-/
Just a time paaaaaaas....for movie buffs..
Felt the prequel was much better in terms of story and as a movie.
2 out of 5 stars...with 2 only for the spontaneous Kangana doing a double role.
but dear lady we do expect better roles and much better movies from a National award winner....!!!so please watch out...

Child is the first teacher for a mother:-)

Human behavior and emotions I tell you, it is so unpredictable not only of others but of ourselves sometimes...We wouldn't expect ourselves to behave that way but ultimately the hormones take over or whatever happens to the wiring inside, our output is completely chaotic and uncalled for most of the times, which we realize/regret later.

Everyone has weakness and I too am trying to overcome mine slowly, gradually. Anger is one sure shot toxin, which corrupts your entire brain wiring and ultimately burns your complete system down along with the relation with the one to whom it is targeted. Me being very short tempered have tried/still trying to control my anger especially after being a mother.....

A child definitely brings out so many unknown hidden facets in a mother like her humorous side - making funny faces, pranks, stories to amuse the child and keep it entertained;
her teaching ability - right from instilling good behavior to reading/writing;
her singing and dancing potential - lullaby for their sleep, rhymes and dancing with them like crazy when alone, for their favorite music;
her multi tasking ability - cook, clean, read, sing, feed ,get angry, love all emotions and tasks in 1 platter;
her wild and naughty/notorious side - fooling the child to do/not do certain things .....acting like a child herself sometimes.
The list is endless...,like this every other aspect concealed within her will be unveiled in no time.
At the same time a child can also test, play around and burst ones bubble of self control and repair it in no time.

For example, on a funnier note I never imagined a wild animal inside me until sometime, after shouting and screaming my lungs out and pouncing on her actually like one.She wept, then suddenly came, embraced me tightly even though I was the one spanking her.
I realized my erratic behavior...guilt made my eyes wet her face, me apologizing to her by the billionth peck on her warm cheeks... but by then she already had dozed off in my arms. Realized only a child can make you feel like a loser in life.

Wish it would have been easier to forgive and forget for us matured and enlightened grown ups.
And I know tomorrow when I grow old...and become childlike(as every other old parent is), and she hurts me someway as a grown up, I will naturally forgive her like every other mother...and will embrace her.

Seriously I bet that no other relationship in this entire world can be as beautiful as the one shared by a mother and a child.We usually want to preserve our false ego, give a lot of importance to self esteem and don't want to forgive. It is not that we all should become saints. It is just that we should not get stuck to any situation or circumstance, carrying the huge load of ego, anger, grudge ,rivalry, tit for tat attitude, jealousy, all other feelings of negativity for others who give you the same treatment. This will only increase the burden on the already screwed up mind of a human being.

So instead try to simplify the situations thrown in, think, reason and simplify the reactions at the moment and whatever happens, just move on with the journey ...unloading all the unnecessary baggage from time to time to have a lighter mind for a better self.Be at peace with your inner self and the world will be a better place to live.And of course I can share all this with you when my mentor is asleep...

As anyway she is doing her job even though asleep, invoking the philosopher and writer in me..
As usual, my little one is going on teaching me, grooming me to be able to handle life easily in her own way. And am taking tiny steps as a toddler in learning these facts of life...
Hoping to grow up fast along with her....!!!!
Thank you darling and sorry again for mamma's behavior..!!
Love ..and only love to you.....