Mindfulness, best thing you can gift yourself and your child

Am sharing some of my thoughts and viewpoints here which might be overwhelming for many who think the other way... Am just using this platform to share some information which might help you think in that direction , certain from my own experience and some others from the lives of my known ones.
Am not acting philosopher here, but just trying to share the knowledge I have gained as a learner an amateur at that  in the path of understanding what life is and how to live it.. 
The rest who don't agree, Kindly forgive me.. You will know better from your experience. I know we agree to disagree. But just request you go ahead to give it a read.. 😊🙏

We all need to grow with a clear understanding and maturity that ego and self respect are not the same... Yes, self respect is an important ingredient for our growth. Where as, ego is not..
Ego though boosts your invisible confidence by putting down the other person, it inadvertently destroys your relationship with others.

Being flexible to certain things which does no harm to your conscience and self respect is what makes your life more easy. If we are very rigid in our thoughts, then it trickles down to every point of our lives be it our jobs, relationships and our own happiness.
I know certain people hate the thought of adjusting, 'why should we, it is a matter of our comfort and matter of pride' . But this thought is somehow ok to handle certain situations, but not all. Life throws us with situations which we cannot treat with the same mentality that I shall have it my way.
There needs to be a maturity to be able to understand the gravity of the situation and react to the same. It is not same and easy as ditching a lollipop for a chocolate because the child did not prefer the former,as when it comes to the child not liking the house you are living in and wants a bigger house like his friends. (Some highly privileged immature grown ups may even do it.)

You might think I belong to the old school, but it's a reality that our older generations were happier when compared to the advanced generation of ours, whatsoever .
No one is perfect and life does not sustain without compromising and foregoing certain things . And people who claim that they never had to adjust and are the happiest are only lying to themselves... Though they feel they have achieved everything, a huge vacuum will be there inside, if they dare to peep inside their soul . Relationships are way too easy going in the present world, without a clarity and with loads of ego attached.
Am not discussing the serious cases involving domestic violence, physical or emotional disrespect etc. irrespective of gender/relationships. They are wrong and have to be taken up legally. No one should let anyone step on them and force them into being a doormat. And that is where SELF RESPECT comes in.
Am talking about the people who break out of their bondings as easily as eating a pie... just for petty issues/fights which can be sorted out by clear and patient communication and lowering the ego factor.  EGO takes the cake in most of the cases as its more about putting the other person down, than handling the situation positively and treating the other person maturely.

Its a false notion that two people are perfect together, though it might be a perfect match lookwise, it will never be a perfect match between human minds. What everyone knows, but fail to accept is in a happy relationship, it is a fact that ONE of the person(or in many cases, BOTH ) will definitely be more mature to understand this truth and that's how it will be strong and perfect .
But going in and out of relationships impulsively , on look out for people who adhere to our mentality be it friends or spouse ... It is next to impossible to find that person. No two minds think same..
We need to understand the depth of this truth as we grow..

I reiterate, adjustment when it comes to losing your self respect should NEVER be done. But if it is just a matter of a slight variation in your thinking and attitude which helps in handling the situation and ultimately in turn helps you in the long run, then it is a smart/matured thought process. Hope you are able to comprehend what I mean to say here.

That was a far more serious topic, but now coming to simpler things, where does this thought of adaptability and maturity fit in our everyday life.
Be it our eating habits, working nature, daily routine, everything is changed now because of the pandemic. Aren't we slowly adapting to them?Are we taking it to our ego and saying ' no.. It is not done.. I want to have it my way' (some are.. But let's forgive those immature ones)..
That's exactly what am saying.. It is ok to have whatever your parent/spouse prepare for food and not crave for outside food, it is ok if people you love are too busy/tired to talk to you some days, it is ok when there is no power/internet for a day(unless your boss is getting you killed for it) , it is ok not to travel to any exotic places for few years, it is ok if nothing is going the way you want them to...
Have that patience and maturity to deal with things and not acting impulsively at every small situation.

Rejection is easy,..' I don't want this as it does not comply to my expectations, my mindset..'
But is it really possible to always have everything our way,  rejecting everything which we don't like, as there will be million more things in our life which will not come to us asking our permission or likes.
We need to accept certain things with an open mind and move forward than just trying to getaway from them.

Be it as simple as food and as complicated as a relationship,we need to pause and think. We need to think broader and dive deeper into this thought process if we want to equip ourselves with this skill of acceptance and adaptability. And not to forget to pass on the same to our next generation.

If I remember, many of us(not all) never had too many options/privileges as children and we actually grew up ok, more grounded, more understanding of the situations . But unfortunately most of us(not all again) want our children to have more of everything, more options in food, more toys.. And what not(no offense here). They don't know what to stick to.. Their likes fluctuate, they keep demanding and never understand the IMPORTANCE of what is IMPORTANT...Thanks to their generous parents who get them everything on the earth, go to any  level to keep them contented... Feel everything is rosy and good.  They are shielded from the truth called REALITY.
Once these kids grow up and are faced with this truth, they fail massively, not able to comprehend why things are not the way they wanted or blame their parents for having made them failures.

Let us slowly help our children by making them understand the reality of life slowly and steadily.
Though they might hate the facts we tell them , they will thank us in their life later.
A simple example of not preparing the food they want.. I for this instance, tell my children to starve and not eat, if they cannot accommodate and eat what is served on the plate. They have to adapt.
If we make them feel like they will get what they demand by their cries /shouts or just by a sad face, we are creating a tough future for them.
It is not that they will not survive, but they might make it or break down with a lot of struggle.
This is just one small thing.. Similar instances go with other things at home, the way we talk/behave with people, the way we treat our parents/spouse and friends, the way we handle problems
That is if we disrespect people/relationships they will take a cue from us and it might affect their handling relationships later in life.
All parents want good of their children, but no one should pamper them so much and make them literally handicapped from making the right decisions.

Let us empower them with the strength to face failures, rejections and also with the tolerance to adapt to situations. Let us stress more on emotional intelligence rather than only academics and temporary comforts. It is true that the external world, peers may also influence them in a different way , but atleast let us try. TRY to make our influence stronger on them, that they will sail through any storm.

I am sure once we are working in this direction and take the right steps today, they will be more capable and mature in handling their responsibilities, relationships and life...
Atleast we can live / die without any regrets.☺️

Whose that knocking on your mind's door.. Is it happiness!!!

Children.. They do make us realize many things of utmost importance, with their smallest actions. The value of a relationship which we often sideline, the true happiness of enjoying the smallest of acts be it even to enjoy a hug from your loved one/eating a favorite snack/playing around with their toys/dancing to their favorite music.. The list is endless..
They find happiness in every small thing, which we find really petty.

But we grown ups have a more complicated definition of happiness. Happiness becomes an objective, a feeling we think we get only when we achieve our 'GOALS'... No one or Nothing will make us happy as we are constantly running after the mirage called success.
We strive to be happy, we feel happiness only when we get/do something useful , where as it  is just around the corner to seek.

We fake emotions, where as those innocent little souls ooze nothing but honesty, be it in any form of emotion.. love, anger,  excitement,sorrow, happiness, fear...
Our children are our real teachers who groom us with new understandings of life with their acts.

It is a fact that of all those affected in this current scenario , our young ones are the most affected mentally , not able to comprehend the situation, the situation which has emerged because of some serious goof ups of the human kind(read inhuman), the helpless situation which we have got ourselves and our future generations into.
The souls which are supposed to be happy, playful and carefree are now filled with unneeded grief, fear and anxiousness.

As a parent, I feel restless seeing the little ones prisoned indoors though we might make maximum attempts to engage them in activities . It pains when we see their beautiful faces covered with masks and unblemished hearts covered with unexplained fear/unhappiness.
How selfish are we becoming, giving them this kind of world to live in.. We have literally cut their wings to fly outside freely.

Just the other day, my little one was shattered as she could not meet her favorite teacher, because of this deadly virus and the social distancing guidelines issued.
I felt my heart breaking into a million pieces, as my little one wearing a mask, was standing with me near the school gate to catch a glimpse of her favorite teacher. Those little eyes were moist as she did not expect this, a moment where her teacher just waving at her from far and, not coming and hugging her as usual. The teacher was just doing her duty, she also tried to console my child promising she will meet her soon in the coming days when things are better.
I felt helpless and hopeless..no words came from my mouth.. as tears were wetting my mask. I needed consoling more than her. Luckily my lil one just returned with me without any words from her mouth or bawling there. Finally when she spoke she just asked me still with tears in her eyes, " Amma, when is this corona going? Today I will pray to God nicely to take it away... I really want to go back to school '. I assured her(though I couldn't assure myself) it will go away in some time and she will enjoy in her school again.
She though forgot the entire episode in a short while with a  slight diversion and was happily playing , the thing just stuck to my mind for hours.
I could not relax for quite some time. That is the problem with us adults right. We think a lot and struggle to come out of the thinking well. Where as children just push it to the back of their mind and continue with other things happily.
Ofcourse as grown-ups we have a lot of other things to ponder and worry. But why cant we too just live in the moment and let other things run in the background. Let us try to make the maximum of the circumstance and be happy. We don't progress anywhere with constant cribbing about the situation, worrying about the future etc etc.
I felt we should use a lesson or two from our kids and try being grateful and happy every single moment. Try creating that positive vibe around so that even the lil ones feel more secure and the tiny bit of fear/confusion on their minds is also set free.

Its gut wrenching to imagine the fate and pain of the hungry and homeless children of those migrant workers who have no clue of what awaits for them.
So let us all be grateful for the situation we are in and try to help whatsoever in our limit and however possible. Let us also educate our children too that happiness is not found in luxury and expensive toys/things.( Ofcourse they grow up looking at us as to what we prioritize and what we really are, which ultimately reflects in them.)

In our lives, let us start to appreciate and value what we have.. Respect and strengthen the relationships, the bondings with our friends, parents, spouse or children.

Let us be happy every moment and reduce the pace of our running after things which we presume will make us happy. Enjoy the journey, destination is unpredictable.

Happiness in inevitable if we consciously live each moment of our lives . If there are very small kids around you, you don't need my theory, you will get a more practical knowledge of this mantra😉

Start living today.. with a smile.. .

My lil one is calling me to see her new creation (a reason for her happiness now ..) A pretend play cake she has made from a bowl and few threads and beads..let me soak in her happiness and learn more from my lil guru..

Have a beautiful and happy day.. 💐

What the great guru called CORONA taught us ...

2020....an year we all will remember in our lives in a bitter-sweet way...
What a tight slap mother nature has given mankind for all the atrocities it is doing on her, creating havoc in the name of progress and development.
But as far as I guess, our human species and its mentality is more like a dog's tail. After all this settles down(which probably will, after a period of time) obviously people would go back to their old selves doing the exact same old deeds which has actually led us to this current situation. 😢
We as human beings have goofed up our very purpose of existence, leading ourselves to the path of self destruction

There are two extremes which we can see now.. One end, the poor and helpless suffering from hunger and not getting any food , and on the other end where privileged people are complaining about not getting gluten-free bread...🤔

People walking hundreds of kilometres to their destinations verses people who wish to stray hundreds of kilometres away from their homes to unknown destinations on holidays .

People who desperately want to go to safety of their homes verses people who want to ditch the safety of their homes and want to go out (don't know for what) ..

People who wish that they had at least a decent earning that they could at least feed their children with food verses people who wish there were as many online classes/activities to engage and feed their children with gadgets ..

People who don't know what to do for their lives verses people who don't know what exactly to do with their already comfortable lives..🤔

Then it is nothing, but natural right.. We never value the things we have and always aspire for something more..

On a positive note, it is nice to see many utilizing this unusually special phase trying to spend quality time with their family, trying their hands cooking new delicacies, learning new skills, pursuing their long lost hobbies , working out with families, calling and chatting with old friends(whom they didn't find time for before ), going back in time and cherishing the memories.
Thanks to the technology that we can still be in touch with the whole world even in times like this.
But again as I already stated ,there are few on other side, who are not so lucky with their family /relationships or going through a depressing situation or so lazy not wanting to do anything until they find new excuses for not being able to do anything, after it surpasses.

Few weeks back, people were in a mad rush racing blindly in a daze and wanted a break. Now that the almighty has pulled the brakes and giving us time to introspect, people are wishing that they are back to their mechanical robotic life running blindly towards meaningless destinations and objectives. This is the TIME for us to ponder as to why are we always rushing?, what is it thats truly needed for a peaceful/happy living?,
What is the true purpose of our living and how can we make ours/others life better?
What should matter to us the most in the future after this calamity ends?

Not being too philosophical, but it's really required that we take this golden opportunity to stop, breathe and introspect. Let us realize some of the blunders we were doing throughout in our lives till now be it hoarding immaterial things or spending irrelevantly or forgetting to appreciate families/relationships and the comforts we have.
What matters in everyone's life is only peace of mind and happiness and this can come only when we pause and learn to appreciate the tiniest of things we have around us, maintain a good health ....., declutter the homes and mind of unneeded baggages, trying to be a better version of ourselves.

No doubt, that this phase will also end, and if we don't come out if this with proper lessons(based on each individuals way of life) to make the world a better and safer place for our kids to live in.. then only the almighty can help us, with more bigger viruses/challenges thrown in our way.

Reiterating, the world is definitely looking beautiful without human beings and that we could witness in the past few weeks with the way nature's healing itself.
Our super DOMINANT most INHUMANE species don't fit in here at all.. and inspite of our arrogance and stupidity, if we are allowed here to live, then it is high time we acknowledge the same and develop a balanced outlook to respect the existence of all the other species on the planet.

This Corona virus bug let into our system has taught us humans to wash our hands of dirt, but if we are not smart enough to clean the dirt of our minds along this journey , then we can expect our CREATOR to wash his hands and remove the most dangerous VIRUS of all, i. e. the human species out of this planet. Remember he also can't risk his home with deadly bugs like us. God literally had to bring this invisible virus as a guru in these times where we headed the world with utmost arrogance and dominance...if we don't learn from this..Kalki is definitely on the way in a more dangerous form.
Don't tell me that I didn't warn you 🙄

Unfortunately people who have realized will anyway understand with or without anyone's iterating the facts, but for those ignorant souls... 😢 Hope the virus does some internal awakening too... 

Bitter-Sweet emotional Concotion keeps us ALIVE

"Nothing lasts forever `.... Had heard/read this phrase a million times. But realizing it slowly in the daily grind of life..Happiness or sorrow, both fade away with time and we actually feel numb or emotionless after a point on certain aspects.
While on one side, we are too happy with the way our life is shaping up, as we get/achieve whatever we dream or wish for....but the excitement slowly wanes off once it becomes a part of our life. because now we start thinking, its no more a dream, its already there in our lives!!! So we forget to acknowledge that it was a wish that got fulfilled, which might not be the same case for other unfortunate ones. We forget to appreciate the good things, relationships, people in our lives as we already got everything we wanted, and Way too easily.. Forgetting, We can lose out also on those very things more easily.. We think we will never see the sorrow other unfortunate people are facing right now, forgetting that the annoying not- so-friendly neighbour called 'sorrow' is waiting outside our door to knock at the right time.

On the flipside..., we are too sad the way our lives are taking form, we are not getting anything we wish or nothing is going the right way...feels like the universe has conspired against us in every single way to stop us from achieving what we want or causing mishaps, disappointments ONLY to us or our near ones...
Though the emotion appears more intense than happiness. we feel, this is it.. It can't get worse than this.. I quit.. Blah blah.. But, again its just an emotion but on the reverse side of the balance.
The disappointment/sorrow of not getting our needs met, wishes fulfilled or losing people in our lives.. Slowly wanes off with moving time ..
Yeah, some overly emotionally sensitive people might live with prolonged pain.. But they heal with time. We just feel better with time when we realize it has actually made us more mature and stronger. We just need to endure the pain until the more friendly neighbour called 'happiness' knocks again at our doors.

So we should be able to realise that an emotional see-saw of happiness and sorrow is a ride that everyone continuously experiences..
Nothing stays forever.... No emotion also stays forever....!!!
So, all we can do is experience, live and cherish when on the highs, but also have the strength and courage to face the lows, waiting patiently for the next high..

Everyone has a different challenge every single day. Nobody's life is easy.. And every individual should take it up to himself/herself to endure every miniscule moment of happiness be it whatever way.... Every day... Thinking today's the only day I have.

My advice, Keep the engine running fuelled with the concoction of both happiness and sorrow, as we require both to make us feel ALIVE. Without a bout of sorrow, one cannot define happiness...
Happiness is not absence of sorrow and vice-versa .. Its just our mindset.
When we realize this universal truth(good for those who are already in that phase and for others, lets hope someday we will be there ), we will find it much easier to live through the ride of life.

Zero expectations from people/life is the only path to infinite happiness.. (a very difficult theory to practice in life but, definitely worth trying.. Again keep no expectations of the output even if you practice it, as the objective itself will be contradicted .

Time for Humans to turn HUMANE.....COVID-19 a lesson for the INHUMAN world

Don't know or don't care whether it is true or not that the nature is healing as human presence has reduced because of the scary yet sensible CORONA virus pandemic , but it is nice to believe it. It's really pathetic the way human beings have treated and are treating the other living creatures created by God.

Imagine having wild animal wet markets in this current generation, where you have ample food/ alternatives. People going and having animals killed in front of their eyes, and eating them...
See the video here if you are not faint hearted(it's the most DISGUSTING/NAUSEATING things you will ever see) :
https://youtu.be/awS7MsVCfA4

Dogs, cats, bats, rats, pythons, snakes and what not... Butchered, roasted in fire and sold in markets as if they mean nothing. Almost turning to cannibals, will it be their own children next which they will consume. I really have tears in my eyes every time when I see an animal being killed, but this one really made me lose all the little hope l had towards humanity.I just don't care which part of the world it is happening, but this atrocity should really stop...

Why, WHY ? That's all my thoughts are about WHY the hell does someone need to get down to such brutality … And then something somewhere turns out in another form to teach us sensible humans that it is wrong and we need to think, but we never ever learn do we???We want to just do what we wish, irrespective of the worst consequences.. because of our ingenious sensibility.

Today we all are facing one disastrous disease of our generation with COVID-19, few years back it was SAARS... next it will be something else.. But it's fine, we will be blind and deaf to all this until it surpasses. It's all ok as long as it doesn't affect our families, our own people. Let others go to hell...

After a few months, once everything subsides, we AGAIN will continue doing the same senseless, cruelty towards our fellow living creatures by killing them knowingly or unknowingly by polluting their environment, taking over everything which belongs to them, in the name of development.
In another few years,I bet mother nature's wrath awaits us in the form of a massive earth quake or tsunami or a storm..
She definitely knows how to take care of us, the most SENSIBLE, INTELLIGENT and SELFLESS (pun intended) species created by God.
I re-iterate, God should just scrap his project of creating us humans, then the world would be a much more beautiful and peaceful place for other creatures at least.

To hell with us human beings and our senseless happiness in the name of insane progress and development, destroying a beautiful planet called earth...

LOTS of BUGS in the THUGS..."THUGS OF HINDOSTHAN"

Had a mild headache after watching the 2hr 40mnts long "Thugs of hindostan". ..a revenge story set in the British period. Though they have tried their best to bring in realistic shades with massive ship setups and visual effects, it fails to impress.

Disappointed!!! Being a die hard fan of Aamir khan and with the kind of extraordinary work Aamir does, and coupled with a legendary actor like Bachchan sahab, the director could have created a masterpiece. ..:-(
Clearly proves the theory that not all movies with huge actors need to be sensible and great. Look at movies like "Badhai ho" and "Andha dhun".. Having casted low key actors and low budget, the way the stories are weaved and strike a chord with the audience is commendable.

Still wondering why Aamir chose this movie after the really class movies he has done like Dil chahta hai, 3 idiots, TZP, Dangal..Though his character of 'Firangi mallah' is nicely etched, it could have been way better... He is as usual good with whatever he is portraying. But the role does not do any justice in bringing out the voluminous amount of talent inside him. An actor par excellence, totally wasted along with great Mr. Bacchan.. Who is made to do nothing but to keep wielding swords and shouting Azaad throughout the movie. Even the common dialogs fails to impress and are rather sound silly at times. Remember Amitabh in a similar role in "Khudagawah"(released in 90s) ad performed so well .. True that, he is now not so young to take on the action sequences, but he looks really tired and depleted of energy as a warrior.

Fathima shaik, as a warrior princess seeking revenge looks totally blank, emotionless.. She was way better in Dangal. I really feel Sanya Malhotra is doing better movies than her with a much better taste in selection of work. 
Katrina kaif looks like she doesn't have any meaningful movies to choose from and wants to just use her looks to do some item songs. She is part of 2 irrelevant dance sequences which I felt are with some really tacky hopeless moves/steps. 

Choreography for me should define grace. The magic that Madhuri dixit and Saroj khan did with their songs. Every song of theirs was so aesthetically done..!!!
The songs/dance in this movie lack that aesthetic part.

Music again fails drastically with really nothing much to offer.

Expectations hurt... And so did the movie with such a gigantic star cast and money put in but, output being such a disaster.

2.5 for 5, with 2 points only for Aamir, as primarily am his ardent fan and secondly nothing else seemed to appeal to me in the movie ..
Watch it if you can afford money and time to watch a movie for just time pass. Otherwise wait till you get it on TV , anyway it will be telecast sooner or later.